Saturday, March 06, 2010

Surrender to love

Surrender to love dear ones. So many of you resist the love that you are. You can never truly surrender to loving another until you give this very same love to yourselves. You can never truly unconditionally love another until you unconditionally love yourself. For if there is any area you do not love inside of yourselves, you cannot and will not love that same issue or feeling within another.

Suppose for example, you do not allow yourself to feel your anger. We are not suggesting you take it out on another! But dear ones if you are upset over something, don't talk yourself out of it! Find a quiet space and just feel it. Give it a voice. Journal it and shred it. Pound the pillows. Walk vehemently, or burn it off in some other creative fashion, but whatever you do, don't stuff your feelings. If you do you will harbor unconscious resentments, frustrations, and emotions that will be triggered by others at some point in time. God gives you these people in your life to 'push your buttons' so you know you have these buttons. Then, and only then, can you feel your feelings and after allowing them to be given expression inside of yourself, find the love beneath them - love for self first, and at long last compassion for the other.

Suppose you do not allow yourself to feel your own sadnesses. Then dear ones, life will contrive ways to push that button. Allow yourself to grieve when something doesn't work as you wish, when someone leaves you, or when you are simply exhausted. Grieve the childhood you wish you had but didn't. Grieve the missed opportunities, unmet expectations and frustrations when these arise within you. Don't stuff your sadness and try to put on a happy face for this only causes strain and exhaustion. Repressed feelings of any sort take a toll on the body. Allowing your emotions to flow, if only in private, allows you to cleanse your mind, body, and spirit, and allows the flow of love and grace into your lives once again.

Suppose you do not allow yourself to feel your own loneliness and needs. Then dear ones you will harbor unconscious expectations of others to ease this loneliness and fill your needs. When they can't, won't, or don't, you will become upset, angry, or sad. Only when you own your feelings can you honestly ask another to assist. Only when you feel all that is inside of you can you be comfortable with all that is inside of another.

When you have owned all that you are, both the light and the dark, then dear ones, you can 'be' with others as a source of comfort and compassion to others no matter what they are experiencing. When you truly learn to love all that you are, you can truly love others. You can relate to one another more honestly. You can say, "I am frustrated. I am sad. I am scared. I am lonely." and this honest sharing with the world will often inspire others to offer you more love. If however, you lie and say, "I'm just fine, thank you," when you are not, you push the world away, and you push love away. You all want this love. You all want others to love you for all that you. So dear ones, as we have said in the past, if you want the world to see you... be you.

We are not saying this is easy. We are not saying you must choose to be around people who are angry, sad, or difficult. But we are saying that you can find the love that you are, only when you give it to yourself first. Be compassionate with yourselves first, dear friends, and then you can offer the very same to others.

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