Saturday, February 11, 2012

New choices, new chances

So many of you agonize over the choices in your life. Life, dear ones, is just an adventure of the soul. The choices you make about your inner conditions are always far more important than the choices you make about your external conditions. When faced with external choices, it is human nature to ask, "Which choice will make me happier?" "Which choice will make me feel safer?" "Which choice will protect my heart?" Although it is indeed very human to ask these questions, from our perspective external choices will never make you feel happier, safer, or more protected. Nothing external can every truly dictate your internal conditions.

Far better to say, "I intend to be happy! I choose what makes me happiest now!" "I intend to be safe. I feel safest in the moment, by making this choice." "I intend to have a heart filled with love. This choice feels most loving to myself now." And then, dear ones, in the very next moment of choice, make choices once again based on your happiness in the present moment.

Your mind is useful in making choices. You can weigh the pros and cons of a situation. However, so many times there are no clear answers. Sometimes even the heavens cannot give you a definitive answer on how your choices will play out in the future because there are 7 billion people on your planet, each with the gift of free will. We can guide you as to the best choice for yourself now, and in the next moment, and in the next, and this is why we suggest you make choices based on how you feel "now" and "now" and "now" again.

For example, suppose you are considering purchasing a home. You ask, "Will this home make me happy? Will it be safe? Will it be a good investment?" You can research some of those questions. You can look at the neighborhood, the history, and the financial comps. You can have a home inspection. You can due the diligence that you must do as a human being, and then, knowing all you know, dealing with the facts rather than any wishful thinking, you can check in with your heart. Given that this home is a reasonable investment, needs a new roof in the next five years, and needs some work now... given that it is a certain cost, now, in this moment, given all those facts, how do I feel about buying this home. Your mind collects data so your heart can make a clear decision.

Likewise if you are considering getting into a relationship it is prudent to use your mind, but allow your heart to be the final authority. Get to know the other person. Talk to them. If you want a relationship, relate! Learn about the other so your mind has an understanding of who this person is and how they like to live their lives. Your heart will easily know if you sense love or not, but your mind can also be useful to determine if this is someone you can live with. With all the facts in front of you, without wishful thinking or denial, then your heart can say, Given who I know this person is, either I can or I can't live with them. Everyone is lovable, dear friends! But not everyone is livable!

So by all means, use the gift of your minds when making choices, but after you have all the facts you can gather, sit quietly without wishful thinking or denial and ask your heart, "Give all I am able to know now, in this moment about this choice in front of me, how do I feel about it?" Does making this choice enliven me "now" or does it inspire fear. Is it right, right now? Does it feel happy to me, right now? If not dear ones, perhaps it is not the right choice, for right now. Be kind to yourselves. You have new choices presented to you each moment of your life. If you bypass one, God will give you another. You cannot "mess your lives" up unless you ignore your hearts. And even then, with the very next breath, you are given new choices, and new chances.