Saturday, May 05, 2012

Love is not martyrdom

There is a mistaken notion upon your planet that being a loving person means you will make everyone happy, meet everyone's needs, listen to everyone's desires, and be "nice" even if that means putting your own feelings aside, ignoring your own needs, or being completely inauthentic. In reality dear ones, being a loving person simply means acknowledging that everyone has a right to be, exactly as they are, right now, right here, upon your planet earth.

That includes you.

Being a loving person means you will first look inside yourself in any given interaction and say to yourself, "What is my honest response to this person in front of me, and what is the most loving way to communicate, or the most loving action I can take... that include me?" This is new thinking for most of you. Most of you become defensive when you move away from another because you do not feel ok doing so. Many of you will put up with all manner of ill behaviors because you were not taught it is ok to remove yourself from unkind conditions. So many of you, because you love so deeply, will sacrifice yourselves to the point of exhaustion and resentment in an attempt to save and fix others.

This martyrdom, dear ones, does indeed spring from love, but is not the highest form of it. God's love says, "I create you all as magnificent beings. I live and breathe within you. I gave you free will so you can know my love or you can, if you insist, feel separate from it. I will not force you. I will allow you to come to this understanding in your own time. I will exist in a state of love and joy and patiently wait for you to come to know my presence within you." If God, dear ones, who is the life and breath within you, allows beings on earth to continue in their illusions, so must you. God whispers words of love and encouragement in the hearts of all beings, and so can you, but if souls wish to continue in behaviors of misunderstanding and separation, grant them their journey, and simply withdraw your energies. Focus your sights instead upon the light.

You were meant to recognize the light within all beings. You were meant to allow others the dance they choose upon the earth. However, you were also meant to choose your own dance, your own dance partners, your own steps, and your own path. Rather than dancing to another's tune, falling into another's energy, or giving others the authority over your own life, dance to your own beat, stay in your own loving energy, give your own knowing the benefit of the doubt for your own life.

Being a loving person need not feel like martyrdom dear ones. If you are authentically including yourself in the equation of your own life, taking care of your own needs, listening to your own guidance, they you will become a beacon of light, and a soul who is naturally guided by God to assist those ready to receive the particular brand of love you have to offer. Bring your light into the darkness in others' lives when guided, or turn away from it. But in any case, dear ones, do not allow your light to be dimmed, for you are the lights here upon the world, and it is through your love, your joy, and your authentic expression here upon the earth that you do the most good.


Cosmosplace said...

Tremendous advice, beautifully written. Your articulation of this truth is so powerful. Thank you with all my heart—this message helps me and others so much.

Ann Albers said...

I'm glad it helps. It took years for the angels to make this point with me :)