You could attempt to enter a room by pushing the walls down, breaking though the windows, coercing someone into carrying you in... or you could just find the key and walk through the door. Likewise you can change anything in your life by brute force, manipulation, or by finding the "key" to change and the walking through the doorways of guidance and opportunity.
The "keys" to your life changes are not always found in the programming of your past. Sometimes they are. If you want to find a new job you may know that it is necessary to create a resume. If you want to lose weight you may know that you require a change in activity or diet. If you want more peace, you already know some of the things you can do.
More often however, you can simply stop, breathe, receive the love of the Divine and your angels and then ask one simple question... "Given that I want this change, what is my next step?" Trust the first answer that comes.
Give up your worries to heaven dear ones. You do not have to break down the walls. Give up your strategies, mental manipulations, and things you think you "should be" or "must be" in order to have what you want. You do not have to coerce the universe – or your own heart – to have what you want. You simply have to get quiet, breathe, receive, and ask for the "key," the very next step to be taken.
We want to help you find the "keys to the kingdom," and as you already know, "the kingdom of heaven lies within."